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Wrong Day Go Back
What to do when you get it wrong. Client is looking for something, you thought you delivered it and they say, “That is not what I was looking for or expected from you.” What is your default reaction? You had
Look Before You Leap
We were all about to jump into the water and I wanted to take a photo first… How quick are you to leap into action? It can be dangerous. When it comes to change, some of us are too fast,
Think for Yourself
Are you pulled to think like everybody else? Pulled to fit in? Watch out. Bob Kegan talks about levels of adult development. Socialized self is when our identity is based on the group around us. Self Authored is when we
Listening Stone
The Listening Stone at the DeCordova Museum can feel slightly disturbing. Like those who are truly listening, he doesn’t care what he looks like. Is not thinking of what to say next. What about you? What will it take for
Risk Appetite
I think I went too far! Forget about the cobra. Do you see the white knuckles on my right hand?? I didn’t factor in that pythons are strong and predisposed to strangle you. I’m pulling it away from my neck
Small Acts of Kindness
Small acts of kindness mean far more than we know. My parents were going through a vitriolic divorce and I was the pawn. This went on and on. With the usual huge weight on my shoulders, I walked into the
How to Train Your Llama
Why am I laughing? I tried it and it worked! A llama isn’t a puppy. If you go up and say “Good Llama!” as a reward, you might get spit in the face. However, a llama farmer once told me,
Destiny or Probability?
Grab onto this truth when the stakes are high, reaching your goal is uncertain and you haven’t (yet) gotten what you wanted. How does that make you feel? If it takes the wind out of your sails – challenge your
Different Parts
30 Seconds To Learn An Exercise That Will Help We all have different parts of ourselves. How can you use this to navigate through these times? Ask yourself/client On a scale of 1–10 how drained do you feel? (Or upset,
The Wisdom Line
The Wisdom Line, Part 1 How far must you tilt? Where do we cross over the wisdom line and accidentally construct a life we cannot lead? A business that cannot succeed? We can change many things. But we cannot change
Upside Down
How far is your world tilting? Are you walking on the ceiling? A friend asked, “what was it like when your youngest left home?” It’s a bit like now actually. Everything may look exactly the same, but it’s like your
Curating Time
The Many Faces of Time. Each day is a labyrinth of choices, micro-ones are key. Time is weird. It s-t-r-e-t-c-h-e-s and shrinks. How well do you use our most precious resource? Do you carve or slide through your day? Those
Racism is a Reflex
Racism is a reflex. Do you think you are a racist? Probably not. Am I one? I thought not. Then I had a shocking experience with my own unconscious racial bias. A few years ago we informally adopted a teen
Leading in Crisis
Top coaches, Fellows at the Institute of Coaching, share wisdom on Leadership Now.Leaders need our help to accelerate leadership skills for the 21st century. The pandemic is showing us – we might need different leadership skills now. Brings out strengths
We’re All in This Together
We ARE in this together AND we are also having very different experiences.There are many variations on COVID’s impact. One group is just having a quieter lifestyle with some reality-based fears when they go out. Another is frozen, waiting to
We Are in the Same Storm, But We Are Not in the Same Boat?
It was Audrey Burke-McCarthy who shared this insight with us during the weekly huddle which has been connecting the fellows and affiliates of the Harvard-based Institute of Coaching (IOC) from around the globe during these uncertain and challenging times. These