Are you pulled to think like everybody else? Pulled to fit in? Watch out. Bob Kegan talks about levels of adult development. Socialized self is when our identity is based on the group around us. Self Authored is when we

The Listening Stone at the DeCordova Museum can feel slightly disturbing. Like those who are truly listening, he doesn’t care what he looks like. Is not thinking of what to say next. What about you? What will it take for

Small acts of kindness mean far more than we know. My parents were going through a vitriolic divorce and I was the pawn. This went on and on. With the usual huge weight on my shoulders, I walked into the

Ask Yourself One Simple Question I have been a philosophical Buddhist for almost 50 years. In my journey through life, I have read about 400 books on Buddhism. A key component of Buddhist philosophy is mindfulness. The concept of mindfulness is quite in

How do you feel grounded when there is no ground? If achievements make you feel grounded, you may be in trouble – old metrics aren’t quite working. Yesterday I heard:  Here I am 700 million ahead, engagement at 92 and

30 Seconds To Learn An Exercise That Will Help We all have different parts of ourselves. How can you use this to navigate through these times? Ask yourself/client On a scale of 1–10 how drained do you feel? (Or upset,

The Wisdom Line, Part 1 How far must you tilt? Where do we cross over the wisdom line and accidentally construct a life we cannot lead? A business that cannot succeed? We can change many things. But we cannot change

How far is your world tilting? Are you walking on the ceiling? A friend asked, “what was it like when your youngest left home?” It’s a bit like now actually. Everything may look exactly the same, but it’s like your

The Many Faces of Time. Each day is a labyrinth of choices, micro-ones are key. Time is weird. It s-t-r-e-t-c-h-e-s and shrinks. How well do you use our most precious resource? Do you carve or slide through your day? Those

Racism is a reflex. Do you think you are a racist? Probably not. Am I one? I thought not. Then I had a shocking experience with my own unconscious racial bias. A few years ago we informally adopted a teen

Are you disappearing? Finding yourself retreating from relationships that matter to you? Many of us, overwhelmed by professional Zoom calls during the day, are drained and less able to reach out to those we care about. I thought I was

Top coaches, Fellows at the Institute of Coaching, share wisdom on Leadership Now.Leaders need our help to accelerate leadership skills for the 21st century. The pandemic is showing us – we might need different leadership skills now. Brings out strengths

We ARE in this together AND we are also having very different experiences.There are many variations on COVID’s impact. One group is just having a quieter lifestyle with some reality-based fears when they go out. Another is frozen, waiting to

This is the time to grow strengths we did not know we had. Find your backbone of steel. Take “advantage” of the small opportunities you are having to build this into your character. Those who survive hardships, trauma and lean

It was Audrey Burke-McCarthy who shared this insight with us during the weekly huddle which has been connecting the fellows and affiliates of the Harvard-based Institute of Coaching (IOC) from around the globe during these uncertain and challenging times. These

We’ve survived the first month… Now What?Phase 1, the high intensity, quick decision making time is ending. Phase 2 is harder, it’s the endurance phase. It’s like moving from Acute to Chronic, when we don’t know when things will end.

We are now living and leading in an invisible firestorm that surrounds us. Some of us have been socially distanced or isolated and are fairly protected. Others of us less so, and many others are in the direct line of